If you’ve just experienced a breakup: I’m sorry. Life throws the craziest things at us sometimes. We get deep into these relationships… we’re floating high above society through the clouds… and all the sudden, BANG! A breakup. It doesn’t matter the reasons given for the breakup, because you’re hurt just the same.
Getting your ex back is going to have to start with you, not your ex. Because what you are going to have to do is deal with your emotional energy on the subject.
- Make a conscious effort to forgive and accept responsibility for whatever is appropriate.
- Be willing to let go.
- Get humble.
What I mean by “Get humble” is that we need to be conscious of the pride that we experience in relationships. We don’t often apologize or admit fault because it’s hard, and it means taking a bruise to the old ego. So by picking up a little humility, you will be able to accept responsibility and deal with arguments in a more mature manner.
Give it some time. Then contact your ex about having a casual meeting.
Try to arrange sort of a casual coffee time where you can gauge her a little bit and try to see if she has any interest in the relationship. Of course, you won’t be begging for a reconciliation at this point, simply try to have fun and see if she is willing to have a good time with you.
If this seems to be a success, try it again. Remember to shoot for a fun time, and don’t allow arguments to pop up, and if they do you should know how to handle them. Try to kindly admit fault for the fault that is yours but don’t allow a conversation to escalate into ego-screaming to where feelings get hurt even more. Obviously we don’t need any of that.
Head over to BringingYourExBack.com for more information, like:
- How to cure the desperation inside.
- Dealing with guilt during a breakup.
- How NOT to get into trouble with your words.
Thanks for reading,
-Avery.
