Like many women, I’ve been through a few breakups where I didn’t want the relationship to end. At that particular time a lot of us react on pure emotion instead of thinking things through in a logical way. The heartache of knowing he doesn’t want you anymore. He gave you the dreaded speech of “it’s not you, it’s me”, “things just aren’t the same anymore”, “I just need some space”, “we need sometime apart”, or “we can still be friends”… Sound familiar!
There are definitely better ways to rectify the situation without begging and pleading. This is one of the biggest questions people have that are trying to put their relationship back together. What can I say to make him come back? How can I get him to return my call? Are there any magic words or secrets that I’m not aware of? Well, there ARE certain things you can say that will entice your ex into returning your call.
NEVER beg or plead. I know we get caught up in our emotions and for the most part, we are upset and don’t understand the reasons behind the breakup. We want answers and we want them now. But, begging and pleading will only do more harm than good.
Don’t call your ex over and over again pleading with him saying something like:
“Tim, please, please call me. This is the third time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”
And don’t use the “this is an emergency” excuse:
“Kay, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”
Can you see why both of these approaches are just wrong? This just makes you sound desperate and let’s face it, that’s not very attractive.
Curiosity and self interest are the most powerful forces in the human mind and you can use this to your advantage. When you combine the two, magical things can happen. For example, when you call your ex say in a friendly tone:
“Hi Tim, it’s Kay. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”
Can you see how BOTH curiosity and self interest were used? Tim will NOT be able to resist! He will be wondering “what did I do?” “What does she appreciate?” And it will make him feel good because it’s a positive message.
Now here comes the most important part of all. You HAVE to have a plan. You need to figure out what your ex did that you appreciate and what exactly to thank them for. It can be any small thing but it has to be plausible. It’s very important that you have an underlying strategy or the entire plan will fall apart. You don’t want to go to all this trouble and the entire thing backfire.
What you do before, during, and after your ex returns your call (because they will if you follow these steps) is more important than getting your ex to return your call. This entire plan is useless if you use this technique with no underlying strategy. It’s detrimental that you have a plan.
Remember that it’s imperative that you have an underlying strategy BEFORE you call. If you would like to learn more tips about how you can get him back, just visit the Tips For Making Up. The methods described in this system have helped thousands of people get their ex’s back and they can help you too.
